We are the sum total of the decisions we make. Some reverberate through eternity, whereas others affect “the now” part of our life.
We make decisions almost at will, without merely a consideration as to the consequences, yet some of those choices have a powerful impact on oneself and others. One thing is sure; every decision made has a consequence, and every consequence demands further decisions.
According to multiple sources on the Internet, the average amount of remotely conscious decisions an adult makes each day equals about 35,000. Almost 200 of these daily decisions are related to food. In contrast, young children only make about 3,000 decisions each day.
“Decision-making is such a seamless brain process that we’re usually unaware of it — until our choice results in unexpected consequences. Then we may look back and wonder, “Why did I choose that option?” In recent years, neuroscientists have begun to decode the decision-making process. What they’re learning is shedding light not only on how the healthy brain performs complex mental functions, but also on how disorders, such as stroke or drug abuse, affect the process” – Susan Perry
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness as created them” – Albert Einstein
“A wise man makes his own decisions, an ignorant man follows the public opinion”. Grantland Rice
5. Will I live with regrets for making or not making the decision?
One of the most debilitating forces in not making decisions is fear of failure. Fear can immobilise us for life, if we allow it to. I have always been of the conviction that making a wrong decision is a better option than not making a decision at all for fear it’s the wrong one. HOWEVER, we must use sound reasoning that supports ones core values or the consequences could create a plethora of frustration and circumstances that we will live with us forever. Fundamentally, a 360 review will give all the indicators, if we are blatantly honest with ones self.
Ironically, years of counselling has taught me one thing. Most people surround themselves with people that “agree” with their decision making process rather than those likely to oppose them. This gives an unbalanced and inaccurate perspective. One must be confident enough to receive opposing information and opinion, yet secure enough in one’s core values to evaluate it through our 360 perspective.
Here are a few keys to keep you on track.
1. Always seek advice from those who have to live with the consequences of your decision making. It’s easy to obtain, but difficult to maintain!
2. People that know you best will always give you an “insiders” opinion. This can be both positive and negative. What will the projected future look like according to your 360?
3. When a wrong decision is made, never follow it up with a worse one. Be big enough to accept when a decision is moving you away from your core values. Pride is an ugly attribute that is never satisfied.
4. Learn from your decisions, because there is a wealth of experience that will help you and others in the future.
5. Wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from exposure to circumstances.
6. Over analysis can bring paralysis! When you know what you should be doing, it frees one up to say NO, to what you shouldn’t be doing. We may not know what the secret of success is, but one thing is sure, trying to please everyone is not it.
“Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come”. Robert H. Schuller